Comments on: The Trees Had Burned Down to the Ground http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/ A Legend In His Own Mind Wed, 19 Oct 2011 03:17:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jessica http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22673 Jessica Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:51:45 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22673 I'm catching up on your blog after ages away... wanted to let you know that the reason you get more comments on your "real" posts isn't necessarily because people relate more to your "real'ness," but because people love and care for you and want to help. There's nothing to help when you're being funny. :-) And I'll throw my hat in the ring as somebody who trusts you a great deal, and knows you won't judge me. I know we're not really in touch anymore, but there was a time when I told you a lot of crap that I could barely say outloud, let alone to my bestest of friends, and I never regretted that decision (in fact, it helped me work out a lot of shit in my own mind and my life). So I'd be happy to return the favor if ever you need to talk, or find yourself wanting to let it all out. Sometimes it is easier to be "real" with people you don't know as well, than it is with people you are super duper close to. I have a hard time opening up to my closest friends sometimes, because I don't want them to worry about me... I’m catching up on your blog after ages away… wanted to let you know that the reason you get more comments on your “real” posts isn’t necessarily because people relate more to your “real’ness,” but because people love and care for you and want to help. There’s nothing to help when you’re being funny. :-)

And I’ll throw my hat in the ring as somebody who trusts you a great deal, and knows you won’t judge me. I know we’re not really in touch anymore, but there was a time when I told you a lot of crap that I could barely say outloud, let alone to my bestest of friends, and I never regretted that decision (in fact, it helped me work out a lot of shit in my own mind and my life). So I’d be happy to return the favor if ever you need to talk, or find yourself wanting to let it all out.

Sometimes it is easier to be “real” with people you don’t know as well, than it is with people you are super duper close to. I have a hard time opening up to my closest friends sometimes, because I don’t want them to worry about me…

]]> By: floating princess http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22481 floating princess Sat, 10 Oct 2009 04:22:51 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22481 I've been through this with the hubs. He saw/did somethings in the marines that he considered pretty heinous and unforgivable. He never told anyone, just let them fester inside him for the longest time. He thought no one would accept him after they knew what had happened to him and the things he did. It took him a while to open up to me, but he did. He told me everything, in varying amounts of detail, and he cried. He cried for his friends that were gone, he cried for the parts of him that died inside because of circumstances, and he cried for that person he was in the before time, that person he would never get back. I listened to it all, and I didn't say anything. He didn't need me to, he just needed to get it out. The crying did stop, and the healing started. He talks about those things more freely now (with me - not just anyone) because I think getting them out to someone who didn't judge him for what he considered the ultimate sins took away some of their power over him. It has helped me understand him on a whole new level, and it has saved our relationship. I hope you can find that too. I’ve been through this with the hubs. He saw/did somethings in the marines that he considered pretty heinous and unforgivable. He never told anyone, just let them fester inside him for the longest time. He thought no one would accept him after they knew what had happened to him and the things he did. It took him a while to open up to me, but he did. He told me everything, in varying amounts of detail, and he cried. He cried for his friends that were gone, he cried for the parts of him that died inside because of circumstances, and he cried for that person he was in the before time, that person he would never get back. I listened to it all, and I didn’t say anything. He didn’t need me to, he just needed to get it out. The crying did stop, and the healing started. He talks about those things more freely now (with me – not just anyone) because I think getting them out to someone who didn’t judge him for what he considered the ultimate sins took away some of their power over him. It has helped me understand him on a whole new level, and it has saved our relationship. I hope you can find that too.

]]> By: Secondhand Karl http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22472 Secondhand Karl Fri, 09 Oct 2009 19:39:46 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22472 <a href="#comment-22462" rel="nofollow">@tokenblogger</a>, Yep, I remember that video well. @tokenblogger, Yep, I remember that video well.

]]> By: Secondhand Karl http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22471 Secondhand Karl Fri, 09 Oct 2009 19:39:30 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22471 <a href="#comment-22460" rel="nofollow">@Sybil Law</a>, I, on the other hand, DO think crying is good for mental health. It's just my experience, of course. I don't think you sound judgey at all. @Sybil Law, I, on the other hand, DO think crying is good for mental health. It’s just my experience, of course. I don’t think you sound judgey at all.

]]> By: Secondhand Karl http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22470 Secondhand Karl Fri, 09 Oct 2009 19:38:30 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22470 <a href="#comment-22453" rel="nofollow">@Kim</a>, Um, thanks? @Kim, Um, thanks?

]]> By: tokenblogger http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22462 tokenblogger Fri, 09 Oct 2009 10:03:33 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22462 I never knew there was a video of that song. Thanks. And for sharing, too. I never knew there was a video of that song.

Thanks. And for sharing, too.

]]> By: Sybil Law http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22460 Sybil Law Fri, 09 Oct 2009 04:21:39 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22460 Didn't we just talk about this?! I think you've felt stuff, and I am not truly certain or understanding on the actual importance of crying. I am so not a cryer (crier?) - it takes a lot for me to cry, but I do, from time to time. Usually it's stuff that's built up over time and then I end up crying over something stupid. A cry now and then is kinda refreshing, actually, but I never feel it's vital to my mental health. I am so not trying to be judgey, which I think you know. I am kinda buzzed and thinking out loud. Anyway, I think maybe you just don't need to cry. As far as opening up to people, you know I'm here, but there's no time limit on that, either. You do it when you're ready. Or it feels right, or whatever. No pressure. xo Didn’t we just talk about this?!
I think you’ve felt stuff, and I am not truly certain or understanding on the actual importance of crying. I am so not a cryer (crier?) – it takes a lot for me to cry, but I do, from time to time. Usually it’s stuff that’s built up over time and then I end up crying over something stupid. A cry now and then is kinda refreshing, actually, but I never feel it’s vital to my mental health.
I am so not trying to be judgey, which I think you know. I am kinda buzzed and thinking out loud.
Anyway, I think maybe you just don’t need to cry. As far as opening up to people, you know I’m here, but there’s no time limit on that, either. You do it when you’re ready. Or it feels right, or whatever. No pressure.
xo

]]> By: Secondhand Karl http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22457 Secondhand Karl Thu, 08 Oct 2009 15:47:41 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22457 <a href="#comment-22449" rel="nofollow">@Miss Britt</a>, Yes, I might. I mean, I won't like the actual CRYING part, of that you can be sure. But I know I adore YOU, so there's that. @Miss Britt, Yes, I might. I mean, I won’t like the actual CRYING part, of that you can be sure. But I know I adore YOU, so there’s that.

]]> By: Secondhand Karl http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22456 Secondhand Karl Thu, 08 Oct 2009 15:46:30 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22456 <a href="#comment-22448" rel="nofollow">@Hilly</a>, appreciate you sharing that. It's the most fucked up thing, that I know COGNITIVELY what you're saying is 100% dead-on accurate...but the gap from my head to my heart...is keeping me from letting it happen. Fear. Sucks. And I may be visiting Chez Hil soon. Thanks, babe. @Hilly, appreciate you sharing that. It’s the most fucked up thing, that I know COGNITIVELY what you’re saying is 100% dead-on accurate…but the gap from my head to my heart…is keeping me from letting it happen.

Fear. Sucks.

And I may be visiting Chez Hil soon. Thanks, babe.

]]> By: Secondhand Karl http://secondhandkarl.com/2009/10/the-trees-had-burned-down-to-the-ground/comment-page-1/#comment-22455 Secondhand Karl Thu, 08 Oct 2009 15:44:39 +0000 http://secondhandkarl.com/?p=3277#comment-22455 <a href="#comment-22444" rel="nofollow">@Sassy</a>, I have nothing smartass to reply with on that. Thanks, hon. That means a lot to me. @Sassy, I have nothing smartass to reply with on that.

Thanks, hon. That means a lot to me.

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