Comments on: That was Something

By: Bill

Bill — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 06:00:13 +0000

Karl, Your tributes to Lisa have been over welming. I knew you could not make the funeral, but you were there. I only meet you once, when you visited Lisa and we shared donuts with Lisa. Two diabetics and a girl (woman) with cancer. Her sence of humor would make the world laugh. Every once in while I could make her laugh. She loved her family, John, Cameron, and Christene and her sister Danille. Me , well I’m finding more about the crazy funny chick that was my daughter and beliveing every thing that happened, after she was my daughter. When I hade my Heart transplant on March 21 2007 two years ago, I left three letters in case anything would happen to me. One, cource was to my wife and one to Danielle. The thrid wa to Lisa. I told her she could do any thing in this world she wanted to do, if she really wanted to do it. She did when she graduated from DeVrie. My girls did not have to read those letters. Lisa posted in the Reading Eagles Blog that we had a bet as to who was going to be cut open first. She told the world that she lost by about 30 minutes. But in the days before she thought it would be great to be recovering with her father. She said we would be on the same road but in different vehicles. In the times that I realse she gone it becomes loanly and then just as fast the memories come and I smile and sometimes laugh. That sprit will never leave the ones who loved (love) Lisa.
Karl, Thanks again and the next time you get near the Philly arae cam and Dude and I’ll build the Maragreta with Big BAD Bill’s Magic Margarita Mix. I gave both Lisa and Danielle the receip and made promise the would take it the grave. Now there are two on earth and the best one is in heaven arguing with her grandfather as to waht is better Gin or Taquila. Who do think will come out on top?

Bill Lisa’s Dad

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 18:14:18 +0000

@kerry, Beautiful words. Thanks.

By: kerry

kerry — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 17:49:03 +0000

I agree Karl right choice not easy I know. I read this tribute to Lisa and it reminds me that the impact we make on others..it can be made any place you talk or write to a person. I keep thinking from the that people who make comments about people being fake with cancer. Are just freaking morons..cause believe me its never easy dealing cancer even on good days..It was with Lisa daily dealing with it. But I loved her remarks on that and it made me chuckle to I have had my share of bs from people to.
Anyways Lisa is right..and It is what it is. Some will forever want to understand and others are dumb as they come and assume.

I was visiting a friend in hospice the other day.
I leave you with this verse that is written on the wall of the hospice chapel:

The Lord is your keeper;
The Lord is your shade at your right hand.
The sun shall not strike you by day,
Nor the moon by night.

The Lord will keep you from all evil;
The Lord will keep your life.
The Lord will keep your going out and coming in
From this time on and forevermore.
Psalm 121

Thanks for reminding me of the importance of being there for our friends. No matter what the situation.

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 18:20:58 +0000

@Ginger, Hey babe, thanks. As soon as the emotions hit, I’ll embrace them.

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 18:19:14 +0000

@cathy, So sorry to hear about your aunt. My thoughts and prayers are with her. Knowing that Lisa fought cancer 3 times kind of gives me hope that others will do the same, and with success. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 18:15:39 +0000

@Anissa@Hope4Peyton, Thanks. You're right, I'd much rather something happen to me than my children.

By: Ginger

Ginger — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 07:56:15 +0000

Just chiming in to say what everybody else has said here...you definitely made the right choice in seeing Lisa in life rather than going to the funeral. And as I said on Twitter a couple of days ago, just embrace each & every emotion...or lack thereof. Your way of grieving is perfect for you. "It is what it is." *hugs* Ginger’s last blog post..RIP Lisa, aka “Clusterfook”

By: cathy

cathy — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 05:36:40 +0000

Karl, I discovered you through Lisa’s blog, and Lisa practically by accident about a year ago. The very day she died my favorite aunt called to tell us she has ovarian cancer. Through Lisa I feel like I know what to expect and honestly? I am dreading it and grieving already. All we can do is carry on, care about one another, and let the legacy of those we love live on inside of us. You are going to be okay because you know Lisa wants you to be okay. I have never commented, never met either of you, and yet I am so proud to “know” you.

By: Anissa@Hope4Peyton

Anissa@Hope4Peyton — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 03:26:30 +0000

You know my situation and I remember Lisa once replying to a comment saying that she was glad it was her and not one of her kids. Most people say that and have nothing to base it on, but I knew she meant that to the depths of her soul. Her love for her family wasn't something you HAD to know her personally to get. I wish she'd had longer to show the world how to love that way. She's left one hell of a legacy and I knew her ripples will carry far. Love you, Karl. I know this pain and I'm here for you, anytime. Anissa@Hope4Peyton’s last blog post..Having THE talk with my son….NO, not THAT one

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 23:33:02 +0000

@NYCWD, Makes sense to me, too.