Comments on: Friendship is a Tricky Thing

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 03:18:31 +0000

@Lynda, Temporary withdrawals are understandable. It’s when they get to be lengthy, that’s when I’ve found it to be problematic. As for answering the phone and email, depends on who it is, to be honest. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes not.

By: Lynda

Lynda — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 22:46:31 +0000

I withdrew when I was planning on leaving my husband. It was something I really wanted to talk about but really couldn’t. So, I stopped blogging. I really didn’t call my mom. I was more depressed than I realized I was at the time too.

But, I think that in addition to trying to be the friend you want to be, a good friend will forgive you when you aren’t or can’t be the friend you want to be as well.

As for the complete lack of communication, do you find that answering the phone calls and emails sometimes makes you a little less depressed? (That’s more my own curiosity than anything else.)

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 03:09:03 +0000

@Geeky Tai-Tai, I thought *I* was your heroic geeky friend (but really more than friends, with your husband being the only detail separating us from a life of ecstatic bliss)!

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 03:08:13 +0000

@whall, You should have asked me. I coulda told you she’s a babe.

By: Geeky Tai-Tai

Geeky Tai-Tai — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 18:11:00 +0000

Whall, you’re my heroic geeky friend FOREVER!

By: whall

whall — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 03:12:18 +0000

Wow, Geeky Tai-Tai is HOT! If I’da known that, I would’ve helped her with her blog a LOT EARLIER!

My friendship can be bought.

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 02:33:48 +0000

@BOSSY, Happy New Year!

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 02:33:32 +0000

@Faiqa, Yeah, I can be an asshole when I’m “forced” to socialize while in a funk. It’s another thing I’m aware of and so try to control. Just be sure to give me a warning when you’re in the mood, eh?

By: BOSSY

BOSSY — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 00:19:06 +0000

This is Bossy, the really terrific friend (would you believe mediocre?) saying Happy New Year!

By: Faiqa

Faiqa — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 00:18:01 +0000

I can’t believe I missed Geeky on your show.

The rest of your post was lost behind the regret of not being in the chat room that night. Kidding.

I’m just like you when I get in “the funk.” Only I taught myself at a fairly young age not to pull away even though I want to really, really bad. You know what? It’s still extremely painful to interact at those times, for me and probably for the people I’m interacting with. Whereas I might normally be sympathetic to the person who calls me to complain about how her husband/BF of fifteen years has acted like a shit for the 300th time this year, when I’m in the funk, I’ll say something like, “Why does this surprise you? Are you really this stupid?”

IOW I’m kind of a bitch to everyone during those times. So, I don’t know which is worse, being an uber-bitch or just not answering the phone? Hmm, maybe warning people is probably a good idea.

Sorry for rambling.