Comments on: I Come Home to THIS?

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 15:16:36 +0000

Ms. Florida – I’m not saying at all that I’m not supporting him. I think I can be angry with him for his actions and still be supporting him. In fact, that’s what friends do, in my opinion…call you on your shit. Whether or not we have a relationship after all this is done, I don’t know. But I think being supportive does NOT mean being all warm and fuzzy all the time.

By: Ms. Florida Transplant

Ms. Florida Transplant — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:29:38 +0000

I’m glad you’re not supporting him. I’m going through the same thing with a bastard husband who left me out of the blue – it’s tough to deal with.

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Who Are You Really Calling a Whore? | Midnight Cliff — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 02:16:57 +0000

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By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 23:13:02 +0000

Gwen – Yes, that’s probably what I’d want. I’m going to try to separate myself from everything because I just cannot continue to invest myself so fully in this thing.

LilMissSassyPants – Exactly, thank you.

By: LilMissSassyPants

LilMissSassyPants — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 20:56:31 +0000

I just want to say that I’m very sorry for all involved. Matters of the heart are never easy and are often very hurtful. For all involved: the direct players as well as those on the sidelines.

By: Gwen

Gwen — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 15:48:09 +0000

I completely agree with you, but it seems like they realized their mistake(s) and want to go underground to sort it out. Minus Fab’s outburst yesterday, of course, but doesn’t it seem like his inability to control his emotions and impulses is the root cause of all this whole mess?

Anyway, it just seems to me that the healthiest and most beneficial thing you could do for your friends right now is to stop “picking at the scab” and let the story and their shame fade out. I understand you are all hurt and want to sort out your feelings about the situation, but sometimes you have to set aside your own needs for the needs of others. Isn’t that what you would want if you were in their shoes?

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 11:25:05 +0000

Gwen – I can’t blame you for your perspective. It’s perplexing even to me why so many people are up in arms about this. I don’t KNOW why I’m so invested in it. It bothers me that it bothers me.

But it DOES bother me. Since you’re admittedly new to this particular circle of bloggers (if that’s what you want to call it), then yes, I can see why you’re shaking your head at the entire affair. I’M shaking my head at it.

The thing is, whether they want it to be or not, they MADE this a public issue by their own design. And you can’t uninvent the nuclear bomb. And when you literally INVITE someone to chime in with their two-cents’ worth, then really, can you be in the least bit surprised that people do just that?

By: Gwen

Gwen — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 04:23:15 +0000

I’m extremely peripheral to this group and accordingly only knew something was up from Miss Britt’s post. It took about a minute amount of digging to figure it all out.

I’m sorry that there are four people out there who are really hurting right now, especially since two of them chose to go public and now all the dirty laundry is out there to a degree that someone like me can figure it out. My heart goes out to them.

We’ve all been involved in one or more ugly and uncomfortable situation(s), but for me, the piece that’s missing is: what about Turnbaby’s husband? Y’all are talking about TB and The Fabs, but what about him? Fab’s got issues, TB got involved, and everyone’s upset about what happened, but what about him?

Understand that I have just broken one of my Rules of Life and inserted my nose where it has no business, but it bugs me that no one seems concerned about him. All of them, all FOUR of them are injured and in pain. They made a mistake going public with such a volatile situation. We should all step aside and let them sort it out privately, where it belonged in the first place.

By: hello haha narf

hello haha narf — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 20:57:35 +0000

karl – i knew you would, my friend!

By: Secondhand Karl

Secondhand Karl — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 20:56:28 +0000

Hello – It’s okay. I’m not a big fan of anonymous, either, but I get it. I just don’t want to make anyone feel unwelcome, even if they don’t want to sign their name to a comment.

I’ll totally spank you, though.