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SecondHand Radio is BACK, baby. Tomorrow afternoon at 5pm Eastern. My guest this week is the inimitable Miss Britt from, well, Miss-Britt.com - you’ve read her, you’ve maybe had the chance to hang with her and watch her scream, “Fuck yeah!” in a drunken stupor. And perhaps you’ve even heard her on a couple of other shows. But this is her first time on MINE.
In all likelihood we’ll be talking about TequilaCon and the upcoming BrittCon. But we might discuss other topics like politics (she’s a hard-core Republican) and child-rearing with the miracle of tequila.
Show up a few minutes early to join in on the chatroom action, which runs throughout the show. There’s a call-in number (646) 716-9370 available so you can call in and ask Britt and I anything you like. Lots of fun, guaranteed.
OK, meme time. Got tagged for this one by Greeneyezz. The wench is actually making me think and I’m not yet recovered from two weeks of traveling.
What does true love mean to you?
True love means work. I used to think true love was easy and simple, like it is in the movies, but that’s bullshit. Nothing that good comes easily. Not all the time, anyway. It takes honesty and communication and compromise and support. And when you love someone, those things are not difficult to give. Love is a choice, not a feeling. It’s not something you “fall” into, it’s something you help create.
How do you know if you’re really in love?
When the little things that might annoy you in most people don’t fucking matter with that person. I think everyone has things that are annoying about them; it’s just a question of the good shit outweighing the bad shit. When you’re in love, that’s what happens. I also think a really good indication of love is when you can sit in the same room with someone, not feel compelled to make small talk, and still enjoy each other’s company.
How many times in your life have you fallen in love?
I used to qualify this question by saying, “Well, I THOUGHT I was in love, but…” Now I realize that’s also bullshit. If you THINK you’re in love, then for all intents and purposes, you are. That said, I’ve been in love five times. The longest relationship was, of course, my marriage. The shortest was a couple of months.
Have you ever fell out of true love because you were mad in the moment?
Yes. Once. I’ve already told that story here. Last month, if you’re wondering where it is. But it wasn’t an instant on/off thing, since it still hurt.
Do you feel love and physical attraction are the same thing?
Definitely not. I think crushes start out as a type of physical attraction (though I get crushes on people where it’s not even a matter of physical attraction) and I get crushes all the time. Acting on them is an entirely different matter.
If your true love became ill or disfigured would you continue to love them the same way?
I would, as long as they wore a mask. Of COURSE I’d continue to love them the same way. That’s a ridiculous question. Anyone who answers “no” to that clearly hasn’t experienced “true love.”
Should anyone else be able to tell you who to love or not love?
Nope. You can make recommendations - hell, friends and family all do that. But when those recommendations turn into demands, I officially say fuck off.
Do you believe people that ended up divorced were ever truly in love?
Absolutely. I can’t speak for everyone, of course, but I was totally in love with my ex-wife, even at the end, when things weren’t so great.
Would you give up something you want for someone you love?
Yes, though it depends on what we’re talking about. If someone asked me to give up a CD I wanted, sure. If someone asked me to give up blogging? Um, not so much. That’s a very general question. I’d like to believe that people that love you appreciate you for everything you are and wouldn’t expect you to give up something so near and dear to your heart.
If you truly love someone do you feel it should be unconditional?
The only truly unconditional love, I believe, is the love that God has for me, and the love that I have for my daughters. I will love them no matter what. Everything else has conditions on it. If you say otherwise, you’re kidding yourself.
For example, would I still love my wife (you know, once I find one) if she was cheating on me? Fuck no. Would I still love my wife if she got off on kiddie porn? Nope. There are tons of conditions.
I never tag people for memes. If you like this one, give it a shot on your blog. Otherwise, someone find me a girlfriend so I can display how much true love I have.
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Ooooh… and who is your guest next week??
Dave2 - That would be the charming and pretty…oh, wait, it’s you!
Nice meme. I won’t be partaking, but I will share this: I am not so jaded and cynical as to believe I will never be in love again, but the last time was such an enormous undertaking and investment and it ended in such a smoldering train wreck that I am none too eager to go down that path again soon.
Errr… you and Miss Britt… Do you think that’s err… that er… the world can handle that?
I have the utmost respect for all of you doing the radioshows and appearing on shows as guests… that is about the only thing I can’t do. Make me shit my pants… To have to talk on radio and be funny… Scary shit…
Did you just call me a hard-core Republican?!?!?!?!?!
HAHAHAHAHA! Britt’s such a hard line conservative, it’s crazy!
If my wife cheated on me, I’d still love her.
I really liked this meme, babe. I’m definitely going to do this one. And I am finally going to get around to tuning into this radio show of yours. I personally could never do it but I look forward to listening!
Iron Fist - I label myself a romantic cynic. Been burned a few times, as has just about everyone, but I still want to get married again some day.
DutchBitch - It’s not all that difficult. Course, I can’t promise I’m funny all the time, either.
Miss Brit - heh heh.
Avitable - Well, I suppose I should restate. If my wife cheated on me, I might still love her, but I doubt I’d stay with her.
Lady Jaye - Excellent! If you end up missing the live show, you can always download it to listen later.
LOL You got it Babe! Wench be my middle name!!
I was tickled to see that you decided to fire off a few more synapses, as I knew the subject matter would require a little bit of introspective thought. I’m most certain that ‘making one think’ is a casualty of my job.
I really liked your thought on “When the little things that might annoy you in most people don’t fucking matter with that person.” wise words indeed. I’ve also thought the converse too: ‘All those teeny-weeny-itty-bitty-little things that mildly annoyed me *before* marriage, drove me fucking crazy *after* we got married.’
I have to agree with Avitable regarding the part about Unconditional Love. One of the harder ‘lessons learned’ for me was that I could still Love someone very deeply and realize that I *Would Not* stay with him, as it would be unhealthy. Meaning, I may love him, but I also love myself.
Good responses to a topic that’s usually not easy to answer!
On a separate note, I saw your tweets earlier, and maybe taking this personally, but my quess is that you were meaning Moi *does curtsy for Karl* regarding the truncated feeds.
Watchdog and I were talking about that at TeqilaCon, ’cause he also noticed that I was using the shortened form of feeds.
In my defense, I used to have it set up for ‘full length’, and had only changed it when a guy I had been seeing, was causing problems for me when reading my feed. (He had to come onto my site to read it, therefore I’d know when he was keeping track of me.)
Let me check where he’s ‘at with all this’ maybe I may consider changing back to the full feed. From talking with watchdog, I realized that I apparantly sent you both over the edge with that! I could also view this as Job Security! :)~~
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Greeneyezz/Wench - Actually, I wasn’t referring to you about the truncated feeds today. I was referring to people in general. I had to mark all the feeds as read yesterday to retain my sanity.
It would take me two hours to write about what I think love is but I think you covered it about the same way I would have.
I didn’t know Britt was hard core. Hmmm.
I’d heard about Britt being har core but I think it had to do with something else
Lisa - well, she seems to think she’s a Democrat, but I don’t know about that…
Turnbaby - Ha!
You pretty much answered all those questions with my answers so I think I can just refer people here if they want to know how I would answer. LOL
Winter - Glad I could be of assistance.
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